Dear Diary: Underneath, It's All the Same Luv


Dear Diary,

The word homophobia makes me want to puke. Homophobes make me want to puke. Anything and everything about people who hate other people just based on their sexuality is enough to clear the insides of my body out of my stomach... and onto their faces.
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I feel like homophobia goes beyond the hate of a certain group of people, but to a fear of things they don’t know about―a fear against something that’s supposedly 'anti-bible'.
   I’ve known my best friend is gay since lower school. I don’t even think he knew that he was when I knew. Last December, I was the first person he came out to. I was really surprised when he didn’t tell our other best friend, but he gave me this reason: "Because you make it really clear you won’t judge me or not be my friend if I’m gay."
   This is one of the nicest compliments anyone has ever paid me. Not only am I extremely humbled and honored that I am the first person he felt comfortable enough to come out to, but I feel like I’ve done my duty by making it clear that I support people of any gender, race, or sexuality.
   Something that I feel like isn't talked about, and was one of the most sublime, underrated things that occurred in pop-culture last year (2013) was Macklemore & Ryan Lewis’ plus Mary Lambert’s performance of the song Same Love at the VMA’s. Obviously, this incredible song was overshadowed by Miley Cyrus’ twerkathon/downwards spiral, but yet a year later, is still relevant to me. The performance hit a place in my heart I didn’t know was capable of feeling so much emotion: hate towards homophobes, love towards gay people, the feeling of wanting to make a difference (ok, I guess this feeling was similar to that of reading The Fault in Our Stars). Every quote in that song is just so damn relevant, but let’s take some time to talk about a select few:

"A preconceived idea of what it all meant / for those that liked the same sex / had the characteristics / the right wing conservatives think it’s a decision / and you can be cured with some treatment and religion" 

People stereotype gays. False rumors like, "Gay guys have to have a good sense of style, like the color pink, and talk with a girly voice," are false misjudgments on the LGBT community. Many athletes have come out as gay, before or after their career. Most recently was Michael Sam, the football player. Although these characteristics are common, they aren’t always true. Many Republicans and orthodox conservatives believe that being gay is a choice. My question to those (utterly ignorant) people is: why would someone choose to be hated by people like you? Why would they want to live a life in fear―a fear that people won’t accept them all because you’re scared of something you don’t know?

"America the brave still fears what we don’t know / and 'God loves all his children' is somehow forgotten / but we paraphrase a book written 3500 years ago"

Think about the word 'homophobia'. Homo means 'homosexual' and phobia means 'fear'. So, if you’re oblivious and didn’t already know this, homo combined with phobia does indeed equal the fear of homosexuals. The fact that anyone could ever be scared of a group of people just based on their sexual orientation is absolutely complete bullshit. I just don’t understand how that even makes any sense.
   As Macklemore once eloquently said, "AMERICA IS 'AFRAID' BECAUSE IT’S SOMETHING UNFAMILIAR TO US." Well, America, we’re gonna have to get used to it pretty damned quick because studies show roughly every 1 in 10 people are gay.
   You heard me, rednecks of the United States of America. The home of democracy. Freedom. Hope. ‘Murica. We are supposed to be the place that anyone can come to and have a fighting chance at a better life. Nowadays, we just export illegal immigrants, slut-shame, and picket for the Westboro Baptist Church.
   Oh dear God, help me. Our country is so much better than this, so I don’t understand why we don’t act better than this. The fact that the bible also said that 'God loves all of his children,' (or something generally along these lines...) is always lost in wherever the hell it says in there that everyone should hate the LGBT community. (Where does it even say that? Like, give me an exact geographic location.)

"A culture founded from oppression / yet we don’t have acceptance for em / call each other faggots behind the keys of a message board" 

If there is a word that I refuse to say, it’s that word. The f-word that’s not the f-word. It’s so derogatory and degrading, and in my opinion, calling someone gay never should be a derogatory statement. Gay never should be an insult, so I don’t understand why people keep using it as one — even people who aren’t homophobes. There are only two words in the English language that I refuse to say: one being that word, and the other being the c-word [that means vagina].
   Our culture was founded from struggle and hardships, and about a half century ago, we went through our Civil Rights Movement, fighting for the rights of our nation's African-American population. Right now, America is going through that same turmoil for the rights of the LGBT community. The fact that we did not learn our lesson in the 196'0s says a lot about us, and it’s not a good reflection.

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I know that by the end of the summer, everyone got sick of that song, because the radio played it too much for comfort. Even though the tune got irritating, the meaning will never fade until the hate for gay people does. Every single lyric in that song should be something that people pay attention to and take to heart. Those words, and other empowering commands, should be the kind of stuff that is preached in church, along with the love for God.
   In Bo Burnham's song, 'From God's Perspective', he comedically proclaims what life as God is like. (He leads up to this piece in his 2013 show 'What.' with a speech about how he doesn't want people to leave his show thinking he's better than anyone else, but here's a song called 'From God's Perspective'.) Some of his lyrics are: 

"the books you think I wrote are way too thick / who needs a thousand metaphors to figure out you shouldn't be a dick? / and I don't watch you when you sleep / surprisingly, I don't use my omnipotence to be a f*cking creep" 

   Right from the get-go, it is understood that this song is going to be a hilarious jab at conservative people. Other lyrics from this song are: 

"you make my job a living hell / I sent gays to fix overpopulation / and boy did that go well" 

   Bo sees a liberal God, a God that loves all of his children, no matter their sexuality. Although this song has more of a comedic aspect, every (witty) sentence that comes out his mouth should be listened to and taken to heart because it is the truth. But, like most of the performances from What., about 3/4 of the song is funny, classic Bo, and then goes to a deeper meaning. 

At the end of the song, he begins to sing: 

"you pray so badly for heaven / knowing any day might be the day that you die / but maybe life on earth could be heaven / doesn't just the thought of it make it worth a try" 

We have no proof that there is anything after we die. No hard evidence. I believe in a capital S-Somewhere, but if that Somewhere actually exists, I have no earthly idea. You cannot waste this life hating people, committing wrongs, and filling up your life with regret. I feel like if there is a gate to Heaven, the people who hurt and hate gays, among others, will be rejected. Most people could never entertain the thought of a song by wacky comedian Bo Burnham ever having some kind of deeper meaning (um, duh ― he has a song called #deep), but this song really hits home. To any and all people who have never listened to or watched or read any of his genius work, I would highly recommend doing so. He has four albums, a poetry book called Egghead, and stars on What.
   So, much of our community is lesbian, gay, transgender, or bisexual. Most likely, someone with whom you go to school, and someone with whom you’re friends. Neil Patrick Harris is, and so is Ellen DeGeneres, as well as Elton John, Matt Bomer — who actually got (disgustingly) turned down the lead in the latest Superman and Fifty Shades of Grey films because of his sexuality — Raven Symone (YEAH! Remember her?), and apparently, even previous first lady Eleanor Roosevelt had an affair with a female journalist. The only conclusion that I can draw is that people are gay, and people who have a problem with that are just going to have to get used to it.
   My opinions are mine, and I’m not trying to impose anything on anyone, or alter anyone’s beliefs. I’m sorry if I offended anyone with this (censored) article about homophobia.

I will leave you with this:

Why hate someone or something that you can’t change, for it takes much more effort to hate than to love. 


Find Bo Burnham's full show, What., here
Listen to 'From God's Perspective' here
Watch Macklemore and Ryan Lewis' + Mary Lambert's and Jennifer Hudson's VMA performance here
To find more about the HRC (Human Rights Campaign), click here